Potty seat --Check
M&Ms--Check
Potty Dog with underwear--Check
Elmo underwear for Ella--Check
salty foods--check
lots of yummy, sugary liquids--check
potty chart--check
extra special 3-day surprise--check
a cleared schedule--check
a child who is physically and mentally ready--check
SO WHY IS THIS NOT WORKING!!
.....
And then I read this paragraph from "Toddler Wise." (parentheses added by me)
"Your child's ability and volitional choice to comply is the wild card variable in training. A perverse will can spoil the process. While your child might be physically capable and smart enough to understand what's expected, she must also be a willing participant in her training. How would you rate your two-year-old? Does she accept your guidance during the day? (Never initially.) Does she eat what you serve her at mealtimes without insisting on a new menu? (Not without trying to connive something else first.) When you call her, does she respond positively most of the time?" (No, she locks herself in the bathroom.)
Hmmm...it's all beginning to come clear for me. Well, nevertheless, I am going to be running out of diapers for Ella in about three weeks and I plan on buying no more, so wish me luck!
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They are definitely right - that wild card can ruin the whole plan!!!!!!!!!!! I asked Ella last night if she was going to be a big girl today and potty in the potty...she politely looked at me and said, "no." :) Well OK!
Absolutely the wild card. I totally followed the potty wise steps, and they worked well, but it seemed like it worked even better once I relaxed a little bit and let Anna do it. The first 3 days were definitely the hardest, so hang in there!! One thing that helped tons was we had Hannah over to play who was mostly potty trained and once she figured out she too could get treats when she went in the potty, she went as much as she possibly could. (and also included each of her siblings using the bathroom to get candy when they came to pick Hannah up, hahaha) Watching her friend do it totally helped Anna. Is there a friend you could have over that could show Ella just how cool it is to use the potty? That might help... I promise that she'll end up doing it eventually though! ;)
I actually did the "ran out of diapers" thing with one of my other kids....it worked. With Jordan, I just let him run around the house naked for a few days, AND we handed down HIS diapers to Anna! GOOD LUCK:)
good luck!
What an adventure. It's okay to try different strategies too. With Daniel just not putting his diaper back on worked well, but with Katie it didn't. Some train quickly (when they are ready) and some still struggle and have lots of accidents. It is not my favorite parenting task, though. I wish you luck and hope it goes smoothly. Your stories about Ella crack me up. She reminds me of Katie at that age. Strong willed kids sometimes balk at potty training because they know it's something they can control and they so want control. It's best to stay relaxed with it all. Anyway, enough of this mini-book! You will do great, Lauren. You are amazing!
Oh, I agree with your friend about having a friend who IS potty trained come play. That helped both my kids a ton. Having Ella wear a dress with no diaper underneath for the first few days might help too. Getting pants off and on slows them down enough to discourage them, sometimes. I also had vinyl tablecloths on our carpet to play on/watch tv in the family room for the first days, just to give me some peace of mind with potential accidents. We watched a ton of tv too and stayed close to home while embarking on the adventure.
Hey Lauren
Tyler doesnt have Stephens phone number and he was wanting to talk to him. Will you have him call Ty? Thanks VAL
I am so so happy to read your post. We had the exact problem. Katelyn was totally trained for like 3 weeks with no accidents and then she just all of a sudden decided it wasn't fun anymore. She is now in pull-ups and I am not ever going to try. I am happy to see other people have a hard time with it too. That probably didn't make you feel better at all. They all catch on eventually right?
lauren -
i agree with sarah, have a friend over who could help. this seemed to work for landon. his friend who was also learning to use the potty came over for a playdate and they thought it was so great using the toilet every chance they got. it definitely has to be their idea. i didn't follow any book or set guidelines, landon just decided to be potty trained one day. good luck!
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